Finding Balance in Recovery

Finding “balance.” A term that sends shivers down the spine of an alcoholic or addict—active or sober.

Many alcoholics and addicts have extreme personalities that often lack moderation. So when they get sober, it can be a challenge to change their lifestyle to one that is conducive with recovery.

Early sobriety can often mimic a game of “whack a mole,” in which the alcoholism is under control but then another addictive, extreme behavior or mental health issue comes to the surface.

When someone gets sober there is a part of them that often misses the chaos, drama, and stimulation that their drinking life may have provided. Therefore, they may act out in other ways or begin to behave in excessive ways such as over-working, becoming dependent on a romantic relationship, overeating, etc. These extremes are a sign that a person has not healed and can sometimes become triggers to relapse.

Making time for comprehensive treatment

Many sober individuals may also have a co-occurring mental health condition that requires treatment as well. While their substance(s) of choice may have been used for self-medication purposes—or to hide the underlying mental health issue—the condition(s) will inevitably surface.

Comprehensive treatment involves treatment for these underlying conditions as well as behavioral changes.

But before behavioral changes can be made, individuals need to receive appropriate care. This can include therapy, medication management, rehab, mutual-help groups, etc. Once other health conditions are addressed, it is much easier for alcoholics and addicts to see the necessity of behavioral changes—and a balanced life.

H.A.L.T and balanced self-care

The acronym H.A.L.T (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) can be used to remind sober individuals of mood states that can perpetuate vulnerability to cravings and/or relapse. And those who have longer term recovery also learn that extremes of any nature—positive or negative—are also not helpful for recovery.

Self-care becomes a way of life and individuals need to find ways to create equilibrium in their life. This includes evaluating time/energy spent exercising, meditating, creating healthy relationship boundaries, attending therapy, attending meetings, eating regularly and healthy, getting adequate sleep, etc.

Free worksheet on finding balance

Finding balance can be hard for anyone, but particularly for those in recovery. That’s why I’ve created this free worksheet that can help you or a loved one to examine balance distribution in a variety of areas in life and identify what areas need more or less focus.

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